Nobody Wins the Blame Game
My heart is still hurting when I think of the horrific events that occurred at Sandy Hook Elementary School. We still haven’t talked to the girls about it. I think in one sense I figure ignorance is bliss, but on the other I do worry about what they might hear at school. I heard kindergarteners talking about it yesterday, the Little One wasn’t paying attention to them, so I don’t think she heard anything. The girls haven’t asked about it and we have not talked about it. I don’t know that it will ever come up at home.
Of course all of my adult friends are talking and sharing their opinions. It’s getting to be similar to election time on Facebook. There is a lot of arguing and nastiness. A lot of people are blaming guns, some people blaming Asperger’s or other mental health issues. And others are blaming President Obama, the zero-gun policy, the parents of the shooter, God not being welcomed in school and the list goes on. But the bottom line is only one thing is to blame in this whole mess – evil. An evil man with evil thoughts who did unspeakably evil things. He is the sole person to blame. And honestly does it matter? It’s done and over with. Yes, we need to do all that we can to make sure it doesn’t happen again. But most importantly right now is to support, love and lift up those who are suffering from the most difficult kind of pain – the loss of a child.
Twenty precious children, six loving adult staff members and the shooter’s mother that were lost are what matter most now in these days leading up to Christmas.
Can we please stop the arguing and bickering about gun control, gun laws and arming teachers? And just remember those precious babies, they are the ones that matter right now.
We do need to try to understand why this happened. We do need to understand how it happened. But taking away all guns is not the answer. Giving all teachers a gun is not the answer. I think the answer lies somewhere inside each and every one of us. I think the answer has more to do with who we are and how we treat each other than it does what labels we put on people. Yes, mental health issues clearly played a role in this tragedy. We need to find more options for people who need mental health care. We need to support families struggling with children suffering from mental health issues. But overall we need to be more loving to one another. We need to be kind. We need to be respectful. We need to value each and every life that God creates. Once we do these things, then we can look to the next level – whether that’s stricter gun laws or more security at schools or something entirely different. Unless we start caring more about one another, nothing about our society will change.